God Is Not Mad at You

by Marjorie Desgrosseilliers, Director of Operations

If you’ve ever felt like you had to earn God’s love, or feared, deep down, that you never quite could, you’re not alone. Many of us quietly suspect that God is disappointed, watching from a distance, keeping score, waiting for us to get it right.

But here’s the truth your heart may need to hear today:

God is not mad at you.

That simple sentence has the power to shift everything. It speaks to the lie that His love is conditional or that we need to work harder to deserve it. If you’ve been walking through life unsure whether you’re truly accepted by Him, take a breath. You are loved. Already, fully, completely.

Many of us have learned to hustle for approval, especially if we’ve been shaped by relationships where love had to be earned. Maybe, like me, you experienced affirmation only when you performed well or made someone else look good. Over time, it’s easy to project that pattern onto God, believing He feels the same.

But God is not distant or cold. He’s not waiting for us to prove ourselves. Romans 5:8 tells us,
“But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

Did you hear that? While we were still sinners. He loved us first. He didn’t wait for us to be perfect.

This shift didn’t happen overnight for me. For years, I believed that God loved people in general but not me specifically. I thought I had to pray more, serve more, try harder. Then I began to recognize how deeply that belief was woven into my heart.

It was when I discovered Elijah House’s teachings that I began to see the lie for what it was. Through heart-healing prayer and God’s gentle work in the deeper places of my heart, I started to recognize that His love isn’t something we chase. It’s something we receive.

Zephaniah 3:17 gives us this promise:
“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in His love He will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.”

This isn’t a God who’s disappointed. This is a God who rejoices. Who sings over you. Who delights in you simply because you belong to Him.

The enemy loves to twist our view of the Father. If he can convince us that God is harsh, cold, or disappointed, we’ll hide from the very One who longs to heal us. That’s what happened in Eden, and it still happens today. But Jesus came to undo that lie. He said, “Anyone who has seen Me has seen the Father” (John 14:9). If you want to know what the Father is like, look at Jesus -kind, compassionate, full of grace and truth.

This doesn’t mean God doesn’t care about sin. He does, because it hurts us and distances us from Him. But His heart is always for restoration, not rejection. His correction flows from love, not wrath. His justice is never separated from His mercy.

Romans 8:1 tells us, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” That means none. Not a trace.

If you’ve been living under the weight of “God must be mad at me,” know this… you’re not the only one. Many of us are still unlearning those beliefs, one day at a time. But the truth is already written:

God is for you. He’s with you. And He’s rewriting every lie that told you otherwise.

So today, let this simple truth begin to settle in:

You are deeply, wildly, endlessly loved.
Not because you earned it.
Not because you’re perfect.
Just because you’re His.

And if that still feels hard to believe, you’re in good company. I’m not all the way there yet.
But I’m on the path. And so are you.

*Find out more about heart healing principles that work in our Transformation book series or our Schools of Heart Healing.

If you have a hard time believing, deep down, that God really loves you, you’re not the only one. That’s why we’ve created a few gifts just for you; small, quiet invitations to let God meet you where you are. One is a reflective journal called Dear God, I’m Listening: 5 Letters to Write to God, offering space to talk with Him honestly about the things on your heart. The other is a video workbook called Basic Trust: A Founder’s Video Workbook, where foundational truths about God’s love and trustworthiness are unpacked. We created them with you in mind, and in this small way, we’d be honored to walk alongside you.

If you’re feeling hopeless, alone or completely stuck, and need someone to help you sort things out, we invite you to explore our pastoral counseling services.