All I ever wanted was to be a wife and mom, and for a time I got my dream.
But as you know, life comes with twists and turns, and one of those twists happened just a few days after my husband and I gave our lives to the Lord—he was diagnosed with cancer.
We had a child in grade school, a child in high school, and a child in college. We were brand-new Christians, but we found ourselves in a place where we had to ask the tough questions: “Who are You, God? Why did You do this?”
Our hearts raged. We didn’t understand.
Asking Questions Isn’t Sin
When life doesn’t go the way we expect, we begin to question God, asking who He is and who we are. We can’t be ashamed of these questions because they are some of the most important lessons we can learn.
My husband passed away the day the doctor told us he was going to be fine. He threw a blood clot, and that was the end of his seven-year battle with cancer.
Suddenly I was a single mom, and questions burned in my heart: “Do I trust God? Or do I turn away?”
Twenty-five years later, there are still parts of my heart that question. But this is what I’ve discovered—in the questioning, we come to know who God really is.
He’s Good, No Matter What
I once heard someone say, “Faith is spelled T-R-U-S-T.”
When life twists, God asks, “Will you trust Me? You may not understand. I know this is not the life you ordered. But will you trust Me? I have good plans and good purposes for you.”
Those plans exist even in the face of loss. God is good all the time, no matter what. He hates sin and sickness, and He sent His Son to break the power of those things.
When the air is cloudy and we cannot see, all we need to do is trust Him.
God Knows What You Need
God is the Provider who delights in giving us everything we need. He’s the good Shepherd. Even when we are furious with Him, He invites us to draw close and bring Him our pain.
Journal. Talk to Him. Go talk to a friend—find someone who will listen, care about you, and not insist you be done with the pain.
You have a Father who loves you. He knows what you need, and He will faithfully provide it.
Rely on the Body of Christ
How do we do life single? Alone, but not really alone?
God created us to be a family. When we’re trying to cope with sudden loss, when we can barely keep our head above water, family is what we need—others who will come alongside us, hear our stories, lift us up, and encourage us.
God put us in a family so we can help take care of each other. Even if it feels like we’re alone in our grief, God has brought—or will bring—family into our lives to hold us up when we need it.
The Hope of His Goodness
Jesus has carried me through so many sorrows over the years. As I continually held on to Him, this is what got me through: the hope of His goodness toward us, His provision for us, His taking care of us.
Whatever you are facing today, He has a blessing, a future, and a hope for you (Jer. 29:11).
Hang on, and reach out to us here at Elijah House if you need to.